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Why Wayne Bridge Needs To Grow Up After John Terry Episode

team bridge Why Wayne Bridge Needs To Grow Up After John Terry Episode

Not many think Capello has made the wrong decision to strip Terry of the England captaincy. But I think its an awful decison. I’m not concerned with Terry in the slightest, nor Bridge. But as soon as you start making decisions because there’s a media howl so to do, you are in trouble. You start to follow the media’s agenda and not your own. As we know the football media this week has been in a frothing frenzy of moralistic self-righteousness over the whole Terry/ Bridge/Capello situation. Like Terry, it just wouldn’t quit.

So lets get this straight it seems this decison was made because of something as nebulous and fleeting as ‘respect.’ Poor old Wayne can’t respect his –ex best mate any more. Aw diddums. Well you should choose your friends more carefully then, son.

I found all of it a mixture of hypocrisy and hype. The bleating sympathy for Wayne Bridge though was especially sickening and typical of the infantile culture of football. At times it was as though someone had died. His girlfriend leaves him – presumably because she’s fed up of him – and we’re supposed to feel sorry for him because his feral best mate has gone and humped her afterwards? This is pretty ordinary stuff.

And this is supposed to be so upsetting to him that he’s ‘in bits’? Is he 15 years old? She’s gone man. Let it go. She can do what she wants. Is it really impossible for you to play in the same squad as Terry because a woman who didn’t want to be with you had sex with another man? If so, you’ve got a lot of growing up to do, lad. This is all so childish. It’s a like a teenage story. Quotes from him in the press read like a ‘true life story’ in a trashy magazine.

Bridge was unable to keep the French underwear model on board. She ends the relationship and keeps the kid. She wasn’t kidnapped by Terry and held against her will. She wanted to do this. Whatever you think of Terry’s behaviour, Bridge was already out of the picture. So why are people saying his fellow England team-mates are feeling sorry for him? Why? Because he wasn’t able to keep a tasty bird in his bed? Christ, we should all deserve sympathy then. Grow up you whiners.

Yes we’ve all felt a bit sick when someone we know – even a mate – gets off with an old girlfriend but hey, that’s life. You’ve got no claim on her. It’s all over. She can open her legs for the Royal Navy if she wants; its nowt to do with you anymore. So why is everyone supposed to be broken hearted for poor old Wayne? Why is he being painted as a broken man? This actually smacks more of the schoolyard than of grown-up adult life.
Bridge should be feeling lucky that he’s got a career as a peripheral England player at all. He’s not that good and is only there because there’s sod all else at left back. He should also count his blessings that a man such as he has had access to the bedroom of a French underwear model for a couple of years. If he wasn’t a millionaire football player he’d have to make do, like the rest of us, with bar maids.

I’m not feeling sorry for him nor should anyone else. Almost everyone else who walks this planet has a harder life than Wayne Bridge. He’d do well to remember that before he disappears up his own arse of self-pity.
Surely the correct response to all this, would be to laugh it off. After all, this French knicker woman has been gone since last summer. Plenty of time to get over it. Laughing it off is what most of us would do in real life. When the Hull fans chanted ‘you must be s**t, she’s shagging away’ if he had laughed and applauded them, it would have gained him more empathy than any amount of sob story accounts of his distress and how he’s lost respect for Terry. Oh boo f**king hoo. I bet he knew exactly the sort of man Terry was. He’s known him for long enough. Did he think he was some sort of monk? I bet he knew of Terry’s other alleged affairs. I bet he wasn’t bothered in the slightest. I bet he thought it was all just lads being lads. Until it affected him.

Yes, he might not want to think of Terry riding her like a stallion, but you can’t live your life like a love-sick 15 year old. Grow up, man! If she cared about you, she’d not have legged it. If you had been what she wanted she wouldn’t have gone. Second choice for England and second choice in bed it would seem. So be it. This is your role in life Wayne. Grow a pair of bollocks, serve your country to the best of your ability if picked and deal with it.

The real tragedy is that Capello fell for this purile rubbish pushed by the media and gave in to the pressure. So what next? If a player is caught cheating on his wife will he get the sack? Does it have to be a full blown affair or a one night stand? Full penetration or a hand job? What moral code to keep their place are the players supposed to stick to now? Those of the Catholic church? Buddhism maybe? Zorocrastian perhaps? Who knows any more? It’s a total mess.

Photo credit: Billy Banter.

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52 Responses to Why Wayne Bridge Needs To Grow Up After John Terry Episode

  1. s white says:

    what a stupid article. Trust my son, trust. And children too. Time to grow up too methinks

    • Roy says:

      I agree. It’s all about “trust” with your team mate. The writer obviously can’t see the big picture when it comes to the “England team”. He’s in the gutter and is treating all this like the local pub team from down the road. It’s a crap article, just written to create controversy and feedback. The standard of “real journalism” is gone. This writer is an amateur, a 2-bob amateur.

  2. Tyson says:

    EPLtalk hits a new low. At least you’ll get lots of comment which is all you want right?

    You want people to forget about it so your reaction is to remind everybody about it and then put your own spin on it? Just genius!

    • The Gaffer says:

      Tyson, each writer is entitled to their own opinion and entitled to write about what they want (as long as it’s related to the Premier League and/or England).

      The purpose of each article is to provide content that is worth reading. And if the article gets comments, the more the better.

      Cheers,
      The Gaffer

  3. sucka99 says:

    1. Bros before hos – cardinal rule of the brotherhood of men. If you can’t trust your captain to avoid fratricide by adultery why is he your captain?

    2. Was Wayne really broken up or is this the typical media spin as part of demonizing Terry? Was he really in bits or was he just playing along to the narrative? And if there’s some collateral damage to Terry as revenge for violating #1 – so be it.

    3. There is a kid involved here. So it’s not that easy to just “move on.”

    4. Capello came in and preached discipline from the start. If his captain is constantly fighting off allegations in the press about infidelity, selling Chelsea tours, selling Wembley boxes, etc. it’s a hazzard to the team. There’s no joy in fighting off Nick Collins on your front stoop every morning. And if Terry was made to be a target every day for some skeezy character with a story to sell to a red top, the team would suffer from the distraction. Draw a line under it.

    • Tyson says:

      You hit the mark with comment 3. Terry, Wayne Bridge and the woman honestly don’t matter at all. There is a young boy somewhere who is being exposed to Terrys f**k up and that is the problem.

      I’m glad Terrys sponsors are dropping him in his time of financial problems I hope he gets what is coming to him.

  4. Liam says:

    What is the real agenda of the press.They;ve been after Terry for about five months with all different sorts of crap.What is is the real truth.Rob Beasley
    seemed to know on the Sunday Supplement last week but wouldn’t say.

    • pd says:

      maybe they are after him because he’s a self important ass, who would throw his team mates under the bus for a shag.

      or maybe its just that he a smug wanker who nobody but Lampard likes, and well… and that is telling.

  5. simon says:

    Finally, someone has written some sense on this whole affair. I absolutely agree with everything in the article. I’m just surprised someone else hasn’t written this sooner.

    Sports men haven’t been role models on how to live your life for decades. Wherever you look whether it be football, cricket, athletics, golf, you name it, there are ‘scandals’

    The hypocrisy of press and media generally in this country never ceases to astound me.

    • MNUfan1991 says:

      Agreed. Why would anyone want a football player to be a moral role model–assuming adultery was even involved?
      And I don’t even like Chelsea or JT.
      You want moral guidance? Go to the Vatican… oh wait.

  6. Anu says:

    I agree with the article. I was not able to understand at first either what the whole fuss was all about. Coz reports said JT slept with an “EX” girlfriend of one of his team mates. So I thought maybe he did it when they were still together. But no after the two had already broken up. So??!!
    Strange brits!

    PS I disagree about your trashing Wayne Bridge – he is a cry baby but he looks hotter than that woman – she looks old, fat and a bit frumpy to me but I guess you might not have much choice over there that she is considered hot??!!

  7. gunjack says:

    an absolute rubbish article……im suprised that epl talk would allow all this….

  8. Anu says:

    I have to add I totally agree with Simon. This moral self righteousness from “tabloid media” is hypocrisy at its best. Why john terry has to be every child’s idol? Who decreed that? He is free to do as he pleases. It is upto his wife to worry about (what is she doing sitting in dubai btw. Come back and stand by his side and say he did nothing he was trapped and take that vanessa bi*ch down by her hair).

    • James Dunn says:

      This was a good excuse to get rid of a douche as Skipper of the National Team. Terry can play but he’s a poor example of a leader. Banging a friends ex is one the least objectionable acts I would dismiss him for. There’s a long enough list of crap to go ahead and axe him. There is enough petulance between Terry and Ashley (cry some more ) Cole to fill Wembley. I use both of them as shining examples for our players of how not to act.

  9. sucka99 says:

    well, when your salary depends in part on your celebrity you will be a target for the moral police. If JT had no endorsements and did no interviews, would the outrage be as much?

  10. John says:

    Naive, this is. Do you really think Capello gives one thought to the media or any outside consideration? He’s going to do what’s best for the team, not any individual, Bridge or Terry

  11. PhillySpur says:

    It’s about time someone put this matter into the proper perspective. I completely agree with John. It’s a media hyped issue about a couple of spoiled athletes. Capello fell into the media trap.

  12. jeneria says:

    Since when hasn’t England operated in tandem with the howling media and the howling fans? How many players are chosen purely on the basis of one or two good games and a slew of public support?

  13. Gedo says:

    You guys can do better than cover content like this. Slow week?

  14. Hammerin' Man says:

    Ya know, it is not even close to the knee-jerk that you’re makin’ it out to be. Terry shagged another man’s bird. His supposed best friend, and mother of said best friend’s kid. That’s a real no-no. Terry deserves what he got. He should have lost the Chelsea armband, too. He and anyone else that thinks he can lead with that stain has clearly never thought this situation through. If you lose the trust of your players, that’s it. You become ineffective as a Captain.

  15. Don Erve says:

    I agree with this article, Wayne Bridge is making this situation worse than it could be.
    I think many people are using this immoral behavior as the reason for their preferred choice of captain to take over. Just surprised the media did not hesitate to damage team moral this close to the world cup, if it was all about money surely you would sell more papers if england were in the wc final than reporting this overblown gossip?
    Almost all footballers cheat on their wives because of their ego’s and their fame giving them have a huge selection of women, so its only normally that they give into temptation sometimes. ‘WAGS’ know this and decide to marry them and their big bank accounts anyway.
    But I do think Capello was right to ‘strip’ terry of the captaincy, as it calmed the media down, and that was best for the team. Though I wouldnt be overly surprised if Terry is re instated as captain before the World Cup but i guess that is more in hope than expectation, because everyone still knows he is the best captain.

  16. Jon says:

    John,

    Your article seems to actually cover two points, and I am not sure which point you are making. My view on your views depends a lot on which it is. Are you saying 1) We should not be sympathetic to Wayne Bridge and he should stop playing the injured party in the media? or 2) Stripping Terry of the captaincy for his part is a bad idea.

    If your point is only 1), then I have no strong feelings, but would be inclined to agree with you generally. First, I care less who sleeps with who in the football world and agree that, whilst a crappy situation for all involved, is a matter of autonomous choice for the people involved. If Vanessa wants Terry, her choice.

    If you are of the view that the decision to strip Terry of the captaincy is, as a result of your views on the first point, a bad decision, then I fundamentally disagree. The decision has absolutely nothing whatever to do with Bridge, or his feelings, or whether he should/ought to have known about Terry or whether it is a legitimate choice on Vanessa’s part.

    A captain is a leader of the team, in the dressing room moreso and more importantly than on the field. He will be required to boost the morale of individual teammates after a tough mistake, or of the team after a poor performance. He has to lead the team on the field in changing tactics on the fly and in implementing the instructions of the manager during the game. He must take responsibility to ensure the personalities of the players mesh well in the informal settings at the club, because you do not want a manager mingling in the interpersonal relationships at the club (that will damage the manager’s ability to be objective in selection decisions).

    All of that means that the most important characteristic in your captain is their ability to garner trust and respect of their teammates. That is what makes a good leader. I would much rather give the armband to my worst skilled player that is respected by all than my most skilled player who is petulant and sharp with his teammates.

    In that regard, Terry’s indiscretion makes him a terrible captain. He has demonstrated that he is not the sort of person to be respected or trusted. That is the case even in a culture of football where adultery is rampant. It shows a total lack of respect for Bridge and for his own wife. Just as Vanessa makes her own adult choices, so does John. He had the option to turn her down. He can choose not to, but then he can’t expect Bridge or his teammates to respect him for it. It also leads to all kinds of questions in the minds of his teammates. Do you want that guy around your spouse now in South Africa?

    I think Terry’s behaviour here demonstrates problems with his character from a captaincy point of view, and Capello made the right choice.

    Cheers,

    Jon

  17. Robby Tent says:

    This has to be the biggest bunch of immature crap ever written on this site

    Jesus Christ, who wrote this? Some child who has yet to ever get laid?

  18. brn442 says:

    The article was written with the “tone” of a 17 year old jock (yo Johnny bro, wuddup kid).

    Seriously, I’m sure Cappello made the decision based on what he though was best for the team not on any media pressure or moral judgment. If the row was over cars, gambling debts, or politics, it wouldn’t have mattered. Speaking of which, it’s funny the way male culture, especially in sport still view women as mere possessions, something I’m trying to figure out if the article’s narrative supports or denounces.

  19. Carmello says:

    This is the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever read on EPLtalk.

    And that has nothing to do with what I think is wrong or right in this whole debacle between Bridge and Terry.

    I understand the sentiment of “justifying” WHY Wayne Bridge should stop whining about the situation, but this article supported that argument in the poorest way imaginable – by berating the readers into submission.

  20. ossie's dream says:

    Who writes “Aw diddums” in blog post and expects to be taken seriously?

    EPL Talk can do much better. This is a “man in the pub” rant. I’ll go down the pub for those.

  21. b says:

    “When you start making decisions because there is a media howl to do so…”

    And where, pray tell, did that media howl arise from? Perhaps from the actions of the man who was Captain of England? And perhaps a man who is Captain of England should not be engaged in behavior that will create media howl after media howl? If you are my Captain and you are too stupid to avoid controversy and even go out of your way to create controversy, all the worse because the controversy belittles a team mate, then you are not my captain anymore. End of story, media be damned.

    Everything you wrote after that was childish nonsense that I’m sure you thought was “edgy journalism.”

  22. MarkB says:

    I seriously doubt that Capello gives a rat’s ass about whats ranted about in the English press. For that matter, why would anybody?

  23. Sanj says:

    What a load of rubbish. Seems like an angry teenager’s diary entry. Get a grip, John.

  24. MNUfan1991 says:

    Best graphic, EVER.
    Come on, lighten up. We all need a laugh in this economic climate.
    Thanks EPLTalk!

  25. Tyson says:

    Some of the things this article neglects to mention:

    1: Wayne Bridge was trying to patch up things with his ex because of the young boy. He tried to comb over things with her so the two would seem like a family for the sake of the kid.

    2: John Terry was cheating with the kids mother when his own wife was pregnant. She was pregnant with twins and struggling when JT slipped away under a guise to sleep with another woman.

    Again a crappy article and an indictment of EPLTalk both from a taste and factual perspective.

  26. Tom says:

    I’m guessing the author of this post has never played a team sport before.

    • Huh says:

      You maybe want to take it that he’s a total tool that’s writing utter nonsense about something he knows nothing about except for the very miniscule amount that is printed in the gutter press. Scraping the bottom of the barrel here Gaffer.

      • The Gaffer says:

        Huh, the author of the article, John Nicholson, is an accomplished writer and writes a weekly column for Football 365 – one of the top sites in the UK. Plus, he’s an author.

        You may not agree with his opinions, but if you read through the comments, there’s a mix of people responding who totally agree and those who totally disagree.

        Cheers,
        The Gaffer

        • Huh says:

          Unfortunately the people who agree with him only know the same gutter press rubbish that he does, as this is obviously where he is getting his information from. The details of the whole affair have been kept under wraps very well indeed, with many palms being greased to keep it that way. The writer doesn’t once point out that there is a child involved (except when he says she ‘keeps the kid’ classy). In fact he makes it sound like this was just some girl Bridge meet a few months earlier rather than the long term common law relationship that it was. So I think your man is no different from the rest of the we don’t know so let’s make it up brigade (possibly worse), sad really. I don’t know much about what happened nothing for certain, same as 99.99% of other people. In fact there are probably only 3 or 4 who know what happed, so I cannot possibly comment on it, but one thing I do know is that If you call that good journalism than maybe that’s saying something about yourself .

          He has some great lines like ‘he wasn’t able to keep a tasty bird in his bed?’ and ‘riding her like a stallion’ total class. Are you sure he writes for Football365 and not Fiesta or Loaded!

  27. Anu says:

    I agree with Don Erve one hundred percent.

    BTW what does that woman mean she wants to patch up with Bridge – lady you chose to go on sale and you sold.. now you can’t have your cake and eat it too.

  28. InJTweTrst says:

    Article Is Right ON POINT. Couldn’t have said it any better.

  29. Goonerman says:

    1966 = Bobby Moore
    2010 = JT? I would not cheer on the England team while JT were Captain.

  30. sucka99 says:

    well, Wayne decided he’d leave England for the good of England. He’s all grown up now :)

  31. ash says:

    So this John Nicholson dude works somewhere right? Is he married? Does he have a kid? If his colleague from work screws with his wife will he “grow up” and continue working in the same place?

  32. Leo says:

    Well said. Nice to see some perspective on the matter. It was his ex-girlfriend, not wife or girlfriend. We all know that JT isn’t the most honorable man when it comes to his personal life with women but he is hardly alone in the world of pro sports. A womanizing athlete? Get out! Also, this football skank that wayne and JT both had must be a pretty classy lady and not at all a money grubbing football skank. Team Bridge? As I recall before wayne got hurt Man City were openly shopping for a new left back b/c wayne is, what’s the word? Oh yea, Average. He will regret his ridiculous “whoa is me” self righteous decision to not go to the WC in a few years, as a player of his limited ability should take any thing he can get. JT is a legend! And I am hardly a CFC fan.

  33. Sandra says:

    Hopefully society isn’t in the hands of people like the writer of this article. (Perhaps he’s trying to justify his own indiscretions.) Really, this comes off rather cold and unfeeling. Come on, now, John Terry, where is your restraint? You could have had a host of other women and instead you chose to violate the sanctity of friendship by doing what you did. You and others like you are the absolute dregs of society.

  34. Roy says:

    This writer is no journalist. He’s an amateur for sure. He’s in the gutter and makes comments and snide remarks he knows nothing about (I suppose that’s about on par for journalism these days). One comment above said he has obviously never played a “team” sport. I could not agree more. For all we know Bridge may have confided in Terry (being friends and neighbours etc) and maybe Terry has let him down. Only the players themselves know… so how can anybody guess as to “why” he snubbed his handshake. He must have good reason. Let it be… and hopefully the writer will improve his journo skills in the future.

  35. tonyspeed says:

    the whole crappy argument is hypocritical. what is worse? shagging a babe out of wedlock and accidentally spawning a child that now has to grow up with no daddy. or shagging a babe out of wedlock who already has a child and getting put in the tabloids. in my opinion, this reeks of hypocrisy. both men shagged a woman out of wedlock. once you cross that line, who does the shagging is really of no consequence. so what moral rule are we supposed to draw here? that you can shag a girl out of wedlock and long as your mate didn’t have some kid with her, but if they have a kid she is off limits to you as long as he is still your friend. i’m sure that one is written in the magna carta somewhere.

    the saying goes, “alls fair in love and war”. At least john terry had the “honour” to wait until they had broken up. all the people jumping on john terry and supporting this ego-manaical i-own-that-ho-for-all-eternity wayne bridge are loosers sitting in front of a computer wishing they had a woman.

  36. jojo star says:

    they were best friends and he sleeps with her even if she is an ex it is wrong, he gets her pregnant and then pays for the abortion while bridge and his wife dont know what is going on till the newspapers break it. best friend does this to you you get a stick and beat him with it everyone understands that

  37. WayneBridgeSucks says:

    Wayne Bridge is in the wrong for harboring so much hostility towards John Terry. These types of things happen all the time. WB is just jealous.. Give it up Mr. Bridge and grow up. John Terry is taller than you and his wife wanted him more that she wanted you. Get off ur napolean complex and be a man and stop acting like the little boy who got his girlfriend took in grade school..

  38. David Scott says:

    The article is absolutely right. Bridge and the media need to grow up. His girlffriend had already kicked him into touch so she was fee to bed whoever she wants. It was nothing to do with Bridge? It sounds like he is a control freak who wants to pick and choose who is

  39. David Scott says:

    who si wife sleeps with. Perhaps Terry can do all of England a favor and bed the wives and girl friends of Lescott, James, Heskey, Nevilles and hopefully they would all quit England which will leave room for some GOOD players???

  40. Simon Walton says:

    I have supported Chelsea since i was 12 (now a man of 45 years old) .
    I have supported Chelsea through as our song says through the sun and the rain, even going AWOL from the Paras to see the last game of the season when we won the league 5-0 at the Bridge when Leeds moolahed the scoreboard,,, been around the globe with them on a shoestring and in 5 star hotels.
    My point is this I AM ENGLISH and have a trait that runs deep in my veins and that i am proud of, it is called LOYALTY.

    It is a beautiful quality, I am loyal to my club , to my country, the my family and to my pals.
    I don’t cheat on me mates or me family.

    John Terry is a F%$ckinf WRONGUN , end of!!!

    If you dont agree then you are obviously cut from the same cloth,,, end off

    I notice how the Anu’s and other who aint from my manor (who have jumped on the I am a Chelsea supporter cos we are winning F&*cking bandwagon) all stick up for the w*nker who cheats on his mates missus who happens to be the mother of his kid.

    I also happen to know some other tales about JT, but if you can read between the lines and understand how i was brought up and where i am from and what i might have done , you will realise I know how to keep scthum !!!

    All I can say i hope people realise being a wrongun will never be right.

  41. adrian says:

    I disagree with almost everyone on this board. Wayne Bridge is acting like a child. She’s his ex, she can sleep with whomever she likes, Wayne needs to wipe the tears away, act like a man and go and find a new woman. As for Terry, his wife ought to kick him in the swingers. As for Terry and Bridge as a team, they’re professionals, they should be able to work together: I hate some of the people I work with too, that’s life.

  42. jamie says:

    Wayne Bridge does not need Frankie because he is a wanker for what he did in the John Terry scandal and anyway it was Wayne Bridge’s fault not John Terry

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